{"id":7761,"date":"2026-07-14T18:59:16","date_gmt":"2026-07-14T15:59:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/?p=7761"},"modified":"2026-07-14T19:04:11","modified_gmt":"2026-07-14T16:04:11","slug":"the-way-we-carry-ourselves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/7761\/the-way-we-carry-ourselves\/","title":{"rendered":"Hayat\u0131n Artistik Puan\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"
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G\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda \u015funu anlad\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne yaparsan yap\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne s\u00f6ylersen s\u00f6yle\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nas\u0131l davran\u0131rsan davran\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zarafetini koru.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zarafet \u00fczerine \u00e7ok \u015fey yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015f m\u0131 bilmiyorum. Ama psikolojide pek rastlam\u0131yorum. S\u00fcrekli ayn\u0131 tavsiyeler d\u00f6n\u00fcp duruyor: At\u0131lgan ol. \u00d6zg\u00fcvenli ol. S\u0131n\u0131r koy. Kendini ifade et. Fark\u0131nda ol\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hepsinin yeri ayr\u0131 elbette\u2026 Ama sanki bir tanesi aradan usulca kaybolmu\u015f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zarif ol.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Belki de kelimenin talihi pekiyi gitmedi. Zarif deyince baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n akl\u0131na ince belli \u00e7ay barda\u011f\u0131 geliyor, baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n akl\u0131na da biraz silik, biraz g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fcz insanlar. Oysa ben tam tersini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn \u00e7ok sevdi\u011fim bir dostum, buz pateni yar\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131ndaki teknik ve artistik puanlardan bahsetti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEskiden artistik puan\u0131n neye g\u00f6re verildi\u011fini hi\u00e7 anlayamazd\u0131m,\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hayat da insan\u0131 biraz b\u00f6yle puanl\u0131yor galiba. Teknik puanlar\u0131m\u0131z var. \u0130\u015fimizi yapmak. S\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fczde durmak. Hayat\u0131 \u00e7evirmek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir de artistik puan\u0131m\u0131z\u2026 Bir dilenciye c\u00fczdan\u0131ndaki en b\u00fcy\u00fck paray\u0131 verebilmek\u2026 Trafikte biri \u00f6n\u00fcne k\u0131r\u0131nca kendi tansiyonunu ona hediye etmemek. Hakl\u0131yken sesini y\u00fckseltmeye ihtiya\u00e7 duymamak. Tela\u015fl\u0131 anlarda i\u00e7inde bir s\u00fck\u00fbnet bar\u0131nd\u0131rabilmek\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Daha yirmili ya\u015flar\u0131m\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda, Amerika\u2019ya doktora i\u00e7in gitti\u011fim ilk y\u0131llarda, hocalar\u0131mdan birisi beni koridorda durdurup, \u201cAram\u0131zda senin hakk\u0131nda konu\u015ftuk.\u201d dedi. Ve sonra, \u201cYou have a wonderful way of carrying yourself around.\u201d dedi. B\u00f6yle bir sonuca nas\u0131l vard\u0131klar\u0131 kafam\u0131 o kadar kurcalad\u0131 ki, o zamanlar tam olarak neyi kastettiklerini anlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Ama bu c\u00fcmle, \u201ckula\u011f\u0131ma k\u00fcpe oldu\u201d dedikleri tarzda bir c\u00fcmle olmu\u015ftu benim i\u00e7in. Hep i\u00e7imde ayn\u0131 soru vard\u0131: \u201cAcaba ben kendimi nas\u0131l ta\u015f\u0131yorum?\u201d Hani siz hi\u00e7 fark\u0131nda olmadan bazen ba\u015fkalar\u0131 sizde bir \u015fey g\u00f6r\u00fcr ya\u2026 \u0130\u015fte o cinsten bir geri bildirim. Hi\u00e7 beklemedi\u011finiz anda bir koridorda kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za \u00e7\u0131k\u0131veren cinsten. Nedendir bilinmez, o tarz s\u00f6ylemler hep daha \u00e7ok etki b\u0131rak\u0131yor insanda. Belki de bir amaca hizmet etmedi\u011findendir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou have a wonderful way of carrying yourself.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kelime kelime \u00e7evirince, \u201cKendini ta\u015f\u0131ma bi\u00e7imin \u00e7ok g\u00fczel.\u201d Ama \u0130ngilizcede \u201ccarry yourself\u201d, bundan \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131d\u0131r. Sadece nas\u0131l y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn de\u011fildir. Bir odaya nas\u0131l girdi\u011fin\u2026 \u0130nsanlara nas\u0131l bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u2026 S\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc nas\u0131l s\u00f6yledi\u011fin\u2026 G\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc nas\u0131l kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u2026 K\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u2026 Hakl\u0131 oldu\u011funda neye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u2026 Sessizli\u011fini nas\u0131l ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Yani asl\u0131nda\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cVarl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131ma bi\u00e7imin.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir anlamda insan\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn varolu\u015funun d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya yans\u0131mas\u0131d\u0131r. Asl\u0131nda pek de \u00f6\u011frenilen bir \u015fey de\u011fil, bilerek yap\u0131lan bir \u015fey hi\u00e7 de\u011fil. \u0130\u00e7erideki var olma h\u00e2linin d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya y\u00fcr\u00fcmesi gibi bir \u015fey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Belki zarafet, insan\u0131n kendini ta\u015f\u0131ma bi\u00e7imidir. Ama sadece kendini de\u011fil\u2026 G\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc, bilgisini, ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, hakl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, hatta sessizli\u011fini de. Tabii ki yirmili ya\u015flarda bunlar\u0131n hi\u00e7birinin fark\u0131nda de\u011fildim. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla kendime \u00e7ok da bir pay \u00e7\u0131karamam. Ama bu c\u00fcmle akl\u0131ma kaz\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 bir kere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hayat bana bir\u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011fretti. Nas\u0131l konu\u015fulur, nas\u0131l dinlenir, nas\u0131l terapi yap\u0131l\u0131r\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O zaman tam anlamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zarafet, i\u00e7erideki olgunlu\u011fun d\u0131\u015far\u0131daki esteti\u011fiymi\u015f.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Belki de bu y\u00fczden baz\u0131 insanlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda kendimizi iyi hissederiz. Bunu a\u00e7\u0131klayamay\u0131z. Bize b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6\u011f\u00fctler vermezler. Kendilerini ispat etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmazlar. Ama yanlar\u0131ndan ayr\u0131l\u0131rken sanki i\u00e7imiz biraz daha yumu\u015fam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Son g\u00fcnlerde akl\u0131ma muz\u0131r bir soru tak\u0131l\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acaba Allah\u2019\u0131n da teknik ve artistik puanlamas\u0131 var m\u0131d\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Belki de \u00f6mr\u00fcn sonunda O\u2019nun hesab\u0131nda teknik puan diye bir kategori yoktur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sonra i\u00e7imden yaramaz bir ses g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u00fcyor:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c\u00dc\u00e7l\u00fc axel g\u00fczeldi\u2026 Ama ini\u015f nas\u0131ld\u0131?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ay\u015fen Darcan<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Website: aysendarcan.com
Instagram: dr.aysence<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

G\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda \u015funu anlad\u0131m. Ne yaparsan yap\u2026 Ne s\u00f6ylersen s\u00f6yle\u2026 Nas\u0131l davran\u0131rsan davran\u2026 Zarafetini koru. Zarafet \u00fczerine \u00e7ok \u015fey yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015f m\u0131 bilmiyorum. Ama psikolojide pek rastlam\u0131yorum. S\u00fcrekli ayn\u0131 tavsiyeler d\u00f6n\u00fcp duruyor: At\u0131lgan ol. \u00d6zg\u00fcvenli ol. S\u0131n\u0131r koy. Kendini ifade et. Fark\u0131nda ol\u2026 Hepsinin yeri ayr\u0131 elbette\u2026 Ama sanki bir tanesi aradan usulca kaybolmu\u015f. Zarif ol. Belki de […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":7764,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[68],"tags":[19,122,194,59],"translation":{"provider":"WPGlobus","version":"3.0.0","language":"tr","enabled_languages":["en","tr"],"languages":{"en":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false},"tr":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7761"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7775,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7761\/revisions\/7775"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7764"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}