{"id":7021,"date":"2026-01-19T14:17:39","date_gmt":"2026-01-19T11:17:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/?p=7021"},"modified":"2026-01-19T14:26:34","modified_gmt":"2026-01-19T11:26:34","slug":"three-rights-one-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/7021\/three-rights-one-wrong\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00dc\u00e7 Do\u011fru Bir Yanl\u0131\u015f"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cZihnin sarkac\u0131 do\u011fru ve yanl\u0131\u015f aras\u0131nda gidip gelmez; anlaml\u0131l\u0131k ve sa\u00e7mal\u0131k aras\u0131nda gidip gelir.\u201d \u2014 Carl Jung<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir \u015feye \u201cdo\u011fru\u201d ya da \u201cyanl\u0131\u015f\u201d etiketi yap\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z an, onuanlayabilmek i\u00e7in gereken alan\u0131 da ortadan kald\u0131rm\u0131\u015f oluruz. Oysa her \u015fey tezat\u0131yla var olur. Bir \u015feyin do\u011fru olmamas\u0131 onuher zaman yanl\u0131\u015f yapmaz; yanl\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 da baz\u0131 durumlardado\u011fru olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6stermez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zihnin en b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6revlerinden biri anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r. Ne var ki \u00e7o\u011fu zaman zihnimiz bir yarg\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda afallar; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc anlama i\u015flevi elinden al\u0131nm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Anlamak berrakl\u0131k ister, dinginlik ister, zaman ister. Zihin \u00e7ok y\u00f6nl\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, \u00e7ok boyutlu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyi, sorgulamay\u0131 sever. Buna kar\u015f\u0131n do\u011fru\u2013yanl\u0131\u015f d\u00fczlemi tek boyutludur; tepkiseldir, serttir. Alelacele verilen, hatta \u00e7o\u011fu zaman \u201cvermemiz gerekti\u011fine\u201d inand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z birh\u00fck\u00fcmd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 \u0131\u015f\u0131kta ge\u00e7mek yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, ye\u015fil \u0131\u015f\u0131kta ge\u00e7mek do\u011frudur. \u00c7\u00f6p\u00fc yere atmak yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, \u00e7\u00f6p\u00fc \u00e7\u00f6p kutusuna atmak do\u011frudur. Yalan s\u00f6ylemek yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.
Peki, yalan s\u00f6ylemek hep mi yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Bu soru daha zihnimizde tamamlanmadan i\u00e7imizde bir ses y\u00fckselir : \u201cYalan s\u00f6yledin! Yanl\u0131\u015f!\u201d
D\u0131\u015f sesin i\u00e7selle\u015fmi\u015f, y\u00fcksek perdeden yank\u0131s\u0131 zihnimizi doldurur . Ard\u0131ndan su\u00e7luluk gelir, ceza skalas\u0131 devreye girer. Bu amans\u0131z i\u00e7 ses \u00f6yle h\u0131zl\u0131d\u0131r ki, zihnin kenar\u0131na itilmi\u015f k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck sesleri duymaya f\u0131rsat kalmaz. Oysa belki bir yerlerden c\u0131l\u0131z bir ses, \u201cBir dakika\u2026 Yalan s\u00f6yledim ama neden s\u00f6yledim, birdinle,\u201d demeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yordur.
Bu sese alan a\u00e7madan ilerlemek, zihne yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f haks\u0131z bir m\u00fcdahaledir . Ki\u015fi kendine f\u0131rsat tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, anlamland\u0131rmak i\u00e7in bir zemin olu\u015fturmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, en \u00e7ok da kendine haks\u0131zl\u0131k eder. Zihnin sarkac\u0131n\u0131 serbest b\u0131rak\u0131n; sizi anlaml\u0131l\u0131kla sa\u00e7mal\u0131k aras\u0131nda g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcp getirsin. Evirsin, \u00e7evirsin, ritmini \u015fa\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n, ezberleri i\u00e7inden geldi\u011fi gibi bozsun.
E\u011fer ortada bir \u201cyanl\u0131\u015f\u201d varsa, onu anlay\u0131n ki sahip \u00e7\u0131kabilesiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130nsan yaln\u0131zca do\u011frular\u0131na sahip \u00e7\u0131karsa, hatalar\u0131 \u00f6ks\u00fcz kalmaz m\u0131?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Daha k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardan itibaren \u201cyanl\u0131\u015f yapma\u201d korkusuyla b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcl\u00fcyoruz: Aman hata yapma, aman yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lma. Oysa Yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lay\u0131m ki kendimi anlatabilmek i\u00e7in bir f\u0131rsat\u0131m olsun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hep do\u011fru anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131rsam , yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131 tarif edecek kelimelerden yoksun kal\u0131r\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hatalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 i\u015ftahla sorgulamak, zihnimize verebilece\u011fimiz en b\u00fcy\u00fck hediyelerden biridir. Zihin ancak siyah ile beyazaras\u0131ndaki tonlarla ha\u015f\u0131r ne\u015fir oldu\u011funda kendine gelir; ku\u015fkular\u0131ndan , korkular\u0131ndan bu \u015fekilde ar\u0131n\u0131r.
\u00d6\u011frencilik y\u0131llar\u0131m\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck travmalar\u0131ndan biridir:
\u00dc\u00e7 yanl\u0131\u015f bir do\u011fruyu g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr.
Yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131n kendilerini imha etmeleri yetmezmi\u015f gibi, do\u011frular\u0131da beraberinde g\u00f6t\u00fcrecekleri korkusuyla b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck.
Do\u011frular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yutmaya programlanm\u0131\u015f bir \u201cyanl\u0131\u015f canavar\u0131\u201d g\u00f6lgemiz gibi pe\u015fimizi b\u0131rakmad\u0131.
Ne kadar gaddar bir kurald\u0131r bu. Neden konulmu\u015ftur? Kafadan atarak s\u0131nav ge\u00e7ilmesin diye. Oysa biri 100 soruyu atmasyonla ge\u00e7ebilecek kadar olas\u0131l\u0131k hesaplayabiliyorsa , ben ona \u015fapka \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r\u0131m. Bu onun ay\u0131b\u0131 de\u011fil, s\u0131nav\u0131 haz\u0131rlayan\u0131n meselesidir. Ama kural ne der?
\u201cYanl\u0131\u015f yapt\u0131ysan yaln\u0131zca o sorunun puan\u0131 almam, bir de do\u011frunu elinden al\u0131r\u0131m.\u201d
Zihindeki iz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fcne bakar m\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z?
Hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bedelini do\u011frunla da \u00f6deyeceksin.
\u00dc\u00e7 kez k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 \u0131\u015f\u0131kta ge\u00e7tin, \u00fc\u00e7 ceza yedin; yetmedi, bir de ye\u015fil \u0131\u015f\u0131kta ge\u00e7i\u015fini elinden al\u0131yorum. Onu da hata hanene yaz\u0131yorum.
K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n cezas\u0131n\u0131 ye\u015filinle de \u00f6deyeceksin.
\u00dc\u00e7 kez \u00e7\u00f6p\u00fc yere att\u0131ysan, \u00e7\u00f6p kutusuna att\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6p\u00fc de ben senin i\u00e7in kutudan \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131p soka\u011fa at\u0131yorum.
Do\u011fru\u2013yanl\u0131\u015f dengesinin yerine anlaml\u0131l\u0131k\u2013sa\u00e7mal\u0131k sorgulamas\u0131na zihnimde yer a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131mdan beri, zihnimin sarkac\u0131 bazen teklese de benimle birlikte hareket ediyor. Elbette dogrular ve yanl\u0131\u015flar yok demiyorum; her\u015fey tezat\u0131yla var. Ama do\u011fru\u2013yanl\u0131\u015f yarg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n keskin ucu can yakabildi\u011fi i\u00e7in zihnimize biraz daha nazik davranmay\u0131 \u00f6neriyorum.
Do\u011frunun yan\u0131na bir parantez, yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131n yan\u0131na bir parantez a\u00e7al\u0131m. O parantezleri aceleyle de\u011fil, sahiplenerek doldural\u0131m. Hep yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131 do\u011frularla m\u0131 cezaland\u0131raca\u011f\u0131z? Biraz da do\u011frular\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015flarla s\u0131naman\u0131n vakti gelmedi mi?
Ne \u015fansl\u0131y\u0131m ki bu ya\u015f\u0131ma kadar, do\u011frular\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015flardan ay\u0131racak kadar yanl\u0131\u015f biriktirdim.
\u00dcstelik,
her \u00fc\u00e7 do\u011fru bir yanl\u0131\u015f getirdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dr. Ay\u015fen Darcan, New York
www.aysendarcan.com
dr.aysence @instagram<\/p>\n\n\n\n

HAKKIMDA;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hayat\u0131m\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc dinleyerek ge\u00e7irdim; bazen s\u00f6ylenenleri, bazen de kelimelerin alt\u0131nda titre\u015fenleri dinleyerek\u2026 K\u00fclt\u00fcrleraras\u0131 psikoloji alan\u0131nda e\u011fitim alm\u0131\u015f, Bo\u011fazi\u00e7i \u00dcniversitesi ve Illinois Urbana-Champaign \u00dcniversitesi’nde e\u011fitim g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f ve New York’ta ve \u00f6tesindeki \u00f6zel muayenehanelerde ve dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131k merkezlerinde y\u0131llarca s\u00fcren \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalarla \u015fekillenmi\u015f biri olarak, insanlar\u0131n ili\u015fkilerden olu\u015ftu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frendim: birbirimizle, nereden geldi\u011fimizle, miras ald\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zla ve yaratmay\u0131 se\u00e7tiklerimizle olan ili\u015fkilerden\u2026
\u00d6\u011frencilerle, yeti\u015fkinlerle ve \u00e7iftlerle yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar, ruhun ili\u015fkisel bir anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131na dayanmaktad\u0131r; k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc, aileyi, tarihi ve aram\u0131zda hareket eden sessiz duygusal kal\u0131plar\u0131 onurland\u0131ran bir anlay\u0131\u015f. Psikoloji ve sanat aras\u0131nda, anlam ve oyun aras\u0131nda, bizi yaralayan ve bizi nazik\u00e7e iyile\u015ftiren \u015feyler aras\u0131nda gidip geliyorum. \u0130yile\u015fmenin sadece i\u00e7g\u00f6r\u00fc veya \u00e7abayla de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda ba\u011flant\u0131, g\u00fczellik, yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k ve karma\u015f\u0131k bir d\u00fcnyada yumu\u015fak kalma cesaretiyle de geldi\u011fine inan\u0131yorum. Bazen konu\u015fma yoluyla, bazen renklerle, bazen sessizlikle ve bazen de birlikte g\u00fclmenin sessiz mucizesiyle gelir. Y\u0131llarca s\u00fcren dinleme deneyiminden sonra hala g\u00fcvendi\u011fim bir \u015fey varsa, o da \u015fudur: birbirimizle varolu\u015fsal bir mevcudiyet ve biraz da oyunbazl\u0131kla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, i\u00e7imizdeki bir \u015fey yeniden nefes almay\u0131 hat\u0131rlar.
Dr. Ay\u015fen Darcan hakk\u0131nda daha fazla bilgiye \u015fu adreslerden ula\u015fabilirsiniz:
www.aysendarcan.com
dr.aysence @instagram<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cZihnin sarkac\u0131 do\u011fru ve yanl\u0131\u015f aras\u0131nda gidip gelmez; anlaml\u0131l\u0131k ve sa\u00e7mal\u0131k aras\u0131nda gidip gelir.\u201d \u2014 Carl Jung Bir \u015feye \u201cdo\u011fru\u201d ya da \u201cyanl\u0131\u015f\u201d etiketi yap\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z an, onuanlayabilmek i\u00e7in gereken alan\u0131 da ortadan kald\u0131rm\u0131\u015f oluruz. Oysa her \u015fey tezat\u0131yla var olur. Bir \u015feyin do\u011fru olmamas\u0131 onuher zaman yanl\u0131\u015f yapmaz; yanl\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 da baz\u0131 durumlardado\u011fru olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6stermez. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":7022,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[68],"tags":[19,122,194,59],"translation":{"provider":"WPGlobus","version":"3.0.0","language":"tr","enabled_languages":["en","tr"],"languages":{"en":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false},"tr":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7021"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7021"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7021\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7032,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7021\/revisions\/7032"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7022"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7021"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7021"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7021"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}