{"id":2734,"date":"2023-09-18T01:17:16","date_gmt":"2023-09-17T22:17:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/?p=2734"},"modified":"2023-09-18T01:27:59","modified_gmt":"2023-09-17T22:27:59","slug":"desolated-men-and-women-who-love-desolated","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/2734\/desolated-men-and-women-who-love-desolated\/","title":{"rendered":"Iss\u0131z Adamlar ve Iss\u0131z Seven Kad\u0131nlar"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Hepsinden ka\u00e7mak gerekti\u011fi konusunda hemfikiriz diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Zira ka\u00e7mazsak ili\u015fkinin en g\u00fczel an\u0131nda kendimizi kap\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde neden her \u015feyin tepetaklak oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken bulabiliriz. Iss\u0131z adamlara hepimiz a\u015finay\u0131z diye yazmaya ba\u015flamak istiyorum ama yine de ben \u0131ss\u0131z adamlar\u0131n kim oldu\u011funu bilmeyen o \u015fansl\u0131 az\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa da k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir bilgilendirme vereyim ki yaz\u0131m\u0131n devam\u0131nda da hepimizin ayn\u0131 noktada oldu\u011funa emin olal\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Iss\u0131z adamlar ba\u011flanmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131nan, ili\u015fkilerde sadece kendi duygular\u0131na \u00f6nem veren, bir \u015feylerin ciddiye gitme ihtimalini g\u00f6r\u00fcnce, deyim yerindeyse kaybolan \u00e7ekici bireylerdir. Bu \u201c\u0131ss\u0131z adamlar\u0131\u201d \u0131ss\u0131z adam yapan fakt\u00f6rler genelde \u00e7ocuklukta ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 aile ili\u015fkileri sonucu olu\u015fan ka\u00e7\u0131ngan davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imleridir. Ebeveynlerden g\u00f6r\u00fclen ihmalk\u00e2rl\u0131k, ya\u015fan\u0131lan ebeveyn kayb\u0131 sonucu olu\u015fan kaybetme korkusu gibi durumlar g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz \u0131ss\u0131z adamlar\u0131n var olmas\u0131na etkili olmaktad\u0131r. Bu bireyler hayatlar\u0131ndaki s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 ve problemleri kendileri \u00fcstlenmeye al\u0131\u015fk\u0131n olduklar\u0131ndan herhangi bir ki\u015finin hayatlar\u0131na girip onlara destek olma, yanlar\u0131nda olma fikrine \u015f\u00fcpheyle ve genelde korkuyla tepki vermektedirler. Bu korkunun i\u00e7inde kaybetme korkusu b\u00fcy\u00fck bir rol oynamaktad\u0131r. Sizi kendinden uzakla\u015ft\u0131rmak ve tekrar o konfor alan\u0131na girmek ister. Kaybedecek kimsesi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 o g\u00fcvenli ortam\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rememek onu huzursuzla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Sizi potansiyel bir tehlike olarak g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flar ve i\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fc yan\u0131 bunlar\u0131n hepsi bilin\u00e7alt\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan verilen baz\u0131 tepkilerdir. Yani onu kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za al\u0131p konu\u015fmak, sizin k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck tatl\u0131, \u015firin mi \u015firin hayaliniz olarak kal\u0131r. Hayat\u0131nda sanki bir misafirmi\u015fsiniz gibi g\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda destek olmak istedi\u011finiz o \u0131ss\u0131z adam zaten \u00e7oktan ortam\u0131 terk etmi\u015ftir ve bunu \u00f6yle bir h\u0131zla yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r ki belki de h\u0131z\u0131ndan ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131z d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"867\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24-867x1024.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2735\" srcset=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24-867x1024.png 867w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24-254x300.png 254w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24-768x908.png 768w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24-150x177.png 150w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24-300x355.png 300w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24-696x822.png 696w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-24.png 974w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 867px) 100vw, 867px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu \u015f\u00f6hreti, bu uyumdan dolay\u0131 bor\u00e7ludurlar. B\u00f6yle durumlarda size sadece bir Advil ve g\u00fczel bir kutu dondurma \u00f6nerebilirim ama kaybolan hevesinize ne kadar iyi gelir bilemiyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"695\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26-695x1024.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2737\" srcset=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26-695x1024.png 695w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26-204x300.png 204w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26-768x1132.png 768w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26-150x221.png 150w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26-300x442.png 300w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26-696x1025.png 696w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-26.png 881w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 695px) 100vw, 695px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Neyi yanl\u0131\u015f yapt\u0131m sorusu kafan\u0131zda u\u00e7u\u015fuyor olabilir: Yeterince destek vermedim mi. duygular\u0131m\u0131 do\u011fru ifade etmedim mi, yoksa duygular\u0131m\u0131 fazla m\u0131 ifade ettim? \u00d6ncelikle bilmenizi isterim ki, her \u015feyi do\u011fru yapsayd\u0131n\u0131z \u0131ss\u0131z erkekler do\u011frudan rahats\u0131z ve tedirgin olurdu. Bu y\u00fczden kendinizi su\u00e7lamaman\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6neririm. Ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 bu kriz tamamen onlar\u0131 ilgilendiriyor ve onlar\u0131 zaten seviyor olman\u0131z streslerinin ana sebebi. &#8220;Yani, \u0131ss\u0131z bir adamla asla ili\u015fki kuramaz m\u0131y\u0131m?&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hi\u00e7bir \u015fey imk\u00e2ns\u0131z de\u011fildir ama \u015funu sormak isterim; Emin misin? Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin bu \u00e7abaya de\u011fece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor musunuz? Sizi onunla ili\u015fki kurmaya iten fakt\u00f6rleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcn\u00fcz m\u00fc? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc sizinki de ba\u015fka bir travman\u0131n sinyali olabilir. Kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 olma ihtimalini ortadan kald\u0131rd\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131? Sorunlu aile ili\u015fkilerinin bir sonucu olan bu \u0131ss\u0131z adam tak\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocuklu\u011funuzla hi\u00e7bir ilgisi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan emin miyiz? Belki ihmalk\u00e2r davran\u0131\u015flar size \u00e7ocuklu\u011funuzdan tan\u0131d\u0131k geliyordur ve ilginizi \u00e7eken \u015fey bu a\u015final\u0131k duygusudur? Tamam, kesinlikle hakl\u0131s\u0131n, seni \u00e7ok sorgulad\u0131m, sen sadece \u0131ss\u0131z adam\u0131n\u0131 isteyebilirsin. Sonu\u00e7ta ne kadar \u00e7ekici olduklar\u0131n\u0131 ink\u00e2r edemeyiz de\u011fil mi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kendinize sevgiyle bak\u0131n, bir sonraki yaz\u0131mda g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek \u00fczere&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Modern Cad\u0131<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"936\" height=\"220\" src=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-25.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2736\" srcset=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-25.png 936w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-25-300x71.png 300w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-25-768x181.png 768w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-25-150x35.png 150w, https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/image-25-696x164.png 696w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 936px) 100vw, 936px\" \/><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hepsinden ka\u00e7mak gerekti\u011fi konusunda hemfikiriz diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Zira ka\u00e7mazsak ili\u015fkinin en g\u00fczel an\u0131nda kendimizi kap\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde neden her \u015feyin tepetaklak oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken bulabiliriz. Iss\u0131z adamlara hepimiz a\u015finay\u0131z diye yazmaya ba\u015flamak istiyorum ama yine de ben \u0131ss\u0131z adamlar\u0131n kim oldu\u011funu bilmeyen o \u015fansl\u0131 az\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa da k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir bilgilendirme vereyim ki yaz\u0131m\u0131n devam\u0131nda da hepimizin ayn\u0131 noktada [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":2658,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[68],"tags":[75,120,122,121],"translation":{"provider":"WPGlobus","version":"3.0.0","language":"tr","enabled_languages":["en","tr"],"languages":{"en":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false},"tr":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2734"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2734"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2734\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2740,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2734\/revisions\/2740"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2658"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2734"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2734"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2734"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}