{"id":2414,"date":"2023-07-12T11:08:39","date_gmt":"2023-07-12T08:08:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/?p=2414"},"modified":"2023-07-12T11:11:12","modified_gmt":"2023-07-12T08:11:12","slug":"lets-meet-in-differences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/2414\/lets-meet-in-differences\/","title":{"rendered":"Farkl\u0131l\u0131klarda Bulu\u015fal\u0131m"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Hepimiz d\u00fcnyaya baz\u0131 farkl\u0131l\u0131klar ile geliriz. Genetik olarak farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131za, toplumsal ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrel farklar da eklenir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z hayatta, bireysel ve kolektif kimliklerimiz olu\u015fur. Tam da burada \u201c\u00f6teki<\/strong>\u201d tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131, \u201cben veya bizi olu\u015fturan t\u00fcm kavramlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olan, kar\u015f\u0131 olan, farkl\u0131 olan\u2019\u2019 olarak a\u00e7\u0131klayabiliriz. \u00d6teki demek kula\u011fa k\u00f6t\u00fc gelmekle beraber, asl\u0131nda bu kavram i\u00e7in \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc, olumsuz, berbat bir s\u0131fat ve olu\u015fum diyemeyiz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kendimizi tan\u0131man\u0131n, idrak etmenin, olumlu ve olumsuz y\u00f6nlerimizi bulman\u0131n, sorumluluklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131na varmam\u0131z\u0131n, kendimize bir de\u011fer bi\u00e7menin yolu; \u00f6tekini tan\u0131maktan ge\u00e7er. As\u0131l \u00f6tekini k\u00f6t\u00fc yapan, \u00f6tekile\u015ftirilme durumudur. \u00d6tekile\u015ftirme; ideolojik, dinsel, hukuksal, siyasal, cinsel tercih, genetik, g\u00f6\u00e7 sorunlar\u0131 sebebiyle bir olu\u015fumun i\u00e7inde yer almak, ekonomik olarak damgalamak vs. gibi sebeplerle, toplum i\u00e7inde bu tabloya g\u00f6re ileti\u015fim kurmaktand\u0131r.  Farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n siyah ve beyaz gibi son derece normal olmas\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131n, \u00f6tekini damgalamak d\u00fcnya \u00fczerinde y\u00fczy\u0131llard\u0131r ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir toplum sorunudur. Asl\u0131nda bir t\u00fcr zoraki bask\u0131 ve mobbing olarak sayabilece\u011fimiz bu dayatma psikolojisi toplumun her yap\u0131s\u0131nda hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 zorla\u015ft\u0131rmaktad\u0131r. Peki, nas\u0131l daha kolay olabilir bu kavramla ya\u015famak?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hayat hi\u00e7bir zaman kolayl\u0131klarla gelmez ya\u015fant\u0131m\u0131za, o zaman lezzeti olmazd\u0131 zaten. Her birimiz toplumda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir par\u00e7a ve bir s\u0131n\u0131f\u0131n da \u00fcyesiyiz. Bazen i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fumuz s\u0131n\u0131flar ve i\u00e7inde yer almad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z s\u0131n\u0131flar aras\u0131nda ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131rma olmaktad\u0131r. B\u00f6ylece sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fimin olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hatta bazen ileti\u015fim kopuklu\u011funun ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlar olmaktad\u0131r. Bunun nedeni ANLAYI\u015eIN yerini AYRI\u015eTIRMA\u2019n\u0131n almas\u0131d\u0131r. Ayr\u0131ca, zaman i\u00e7inde, SEVG\u0130N\u0130N yerini de maalesef G\u00d6RMEZDEN GELME almaktad\u0131r. D\u00fcnya \u00fczerindeki t\u00fcm toplumlarda bunun \u00f6rnekleri mevcut, hatta y\u00fczlerce y\u0131l s\u00fcren d\u0131\u015flanma, damgalanma olaylar\u0131 ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, ya\u015fanmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Birka\u00e7 \u00f6rnekle daha net a\u00e7\u0131klamak isterim. \u00d6rne\u011fin t\u00fcm d\u00fcnya \u00fczerinde ya\u015fanmakta olan g\u00f6\u00e7 sorunundan bahsedebilirim. Bir \u00fclkeden bir ba\u015fka \u00fclkeye veya \u00fclkenin kendi i\u00e7indeki bir k\u0131rsal kesimden ba\u015fka bir kentsel yerle\u015fime yap\u0131lan n\u00fcfus da\u011f\u0131l\u0131m\u0131, toplumsal farkl\u0131la\u015fmalara neden olur. N\u00fcfus yap\u0131s\u0131ndaki bu de\u011fi\u015fim; farkl\u0131 gelir d\u00fczeylerine sahip kitlelerin olu\u015fturdu\u011fu yeni ya\u015fam alan\u0131, e\u011flence ve i\u015f yeri ba\u011flam\u0131nda farkl\u0131la\u015fmalara sebep olur. B\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fehirlerde farkl\u0131 bir dinami\u011fin ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerle\u015fkeler olu\u015fur. Bu kesimler bazen \u201cvaro\u015f\u201d olarak da adland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r ve genel olarak \u00f6tekile\u015ftirilir. Farkl\u0131 etnik k\u00f6kenlere sahip bu gruplar i\u00e7in, toplumsal bir \u00f6tekile\u015ftirme aktif olarak ya\u015fanmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir ba\u015fka \u00f6rnek olarak \u0131rklardan bahsedebilirim. Sosyolojik a\u00e7\u0131dan \u0131rk; toplum taraf\u0131ndan genellikle farkl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fclen fiziksel ve sosyal niteliklere g\u00f6re insanlar\u0131n grupland\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r. Terim \u00f6ncelikle ortak bir dil konu\u015fanlar\u0131 ve sonras\u0131nda belirli milliyetten insanlar\u0131 anlatmak i\u00e7in kullan\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u0130nsanl\u0131k tarihinin neredeyse ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131ndan beridir \u2018\u0131rk\u201d ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda, yine belirli bir tak\u0131m s\u0131n\u0131fland\u0131rmalar yapm\u0131\u015f ve kimi zaman \u2018\u00f6tekile\u015ftirme\u2019 bazen eziyet gibi, bazen belli belirsiz ama her ko\u015fulda varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. \u00d6zellikle biyolojik farkl\u0131l\u0131klardan ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan s\u0131n\u0131fland\u0131rmalar, tarih i\u00e7inde insan onurunu hi\u00e7e sayan davran\u0131\u015flara tan\u0131k olmu\u015ftur. Genetik farkl\u0131l\u0131klar kadar, k\u00fclt\u00fcrel farklar da ayn\u0131 davran\u0131\u015f \u015fekillerini g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Burada insanl\u0131\u011fa en \u00e7ok yard\u0131m\u0131 dokunacak ve ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmay\u0131 \u00f6nleyecek dinamik olarak din, dini inan\u00e7lar ve dinin b\u00fct\u00fcnle\u015ftirici yap\u0131s\u0131 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnmekle beraber; d\u00fcnya tarihinde, ayn\u0131 dine inanmayanlar\u0131n da \u00f6tekile\u015ftirildi\u011fi tarih boyunca g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yani k\u0131sacas\u0131 konular de\u011fi\u015fmektedir, ancak \u00f6teki ve \u00f6tekile\u015ftirme, insan tarihinin binlerce y\u0131ll\u0131k a\u015famalar\u0131nda g\u00f6r\u00fclmektedir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u0130NSAN dedi\u011fimiz varl\u0131k kendi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce, inan\u00e7, k\u00fclt\u00fcr yap\u0131s\u0131, ailesi, milleti, tercihi vs. gibi sahiplendiklerinin, kabul g\u00f6rmemesinden, inan\u0131lmamas\u0131ndan, sevilmemesinden, reddedilmesinden ho\u015flanmaz. Ki\u015filer sahip oldu\u011fu her t\u00fcrl\u00fc farkl\u0131l\u0131klara olumsuz anlamlar y\u00fcklenerek, g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015famda bu farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n bir tehdit unsuru olarak alg\u0131larlar. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, \u00f6tekile\u015ftirme ile \u201cben\u201d ve \u201cbiz\u201d in d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndakilerin olumsuz alg\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131 ve de\u011fersizle\u015ftirilmesi s\u00fcre\u00e7leri ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6tekinin de\u011ferlerini hi\u00e7e saymak, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 ele\u015ftirmek, telafi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 zorlamak ile bireyin kendisini de\u011fersiz hissetmesine neden olmak ve toplum i\u00e7inde ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmalar\u0131n ya\u015fanmas\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz olmaktad\u0131r. Bununla beraber bu zorlay\u0131c\u0131 psikoloji ile insanlar\u0131n t\u00fcm de\u011ferlerinden bir anda vazge\u00e7ip, \u00f6tekinin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce yap\u0131s\u0131na b\u00fcr\u00fcnmesi de zay\u0131f bir tutumdur ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 de\u011fildir. Ama  \u201c\u00d6tekile\u015ftirilmek\u201d kavram\u0131 ile ya\u015famak da insan olarak hepimizi bo\u011fan bir konudur \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc k\u0131s\u0131tlar. K\u0131s\u0131tlanmak ise bizi de\u011fersizle\u015ftiren bir \u015feydir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yaz\u0131m\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131ndan beri \u00f6tekile\u015ftirmenin d\u00fcnya tarihi boyunca y\u00fczy\u0131llard\u0131r, pek \u00e7ok konuda ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve asl\u0131nda \u00f6nce ki\u015fiyi baz alarak psikolojik zararlar verdi\u011fini ve ki\u015filerin, toplumun en k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck par\u00e7as\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturan \u2018aile \u2018 yap\u0131s\u0131na zarar verdi\u011fini, toplumu olu\u015fturan\u0131n da aileler oldu\u011funu ifade edersek; \u00f6ncelikle;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bireysel psikolojimiz \u00f6nemlidir. Kendimizi de\u011ferli, mutlu, \u00f6zg\u00fcr hissetmemiz toplum psikolojisi ve sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6nce B\u0130REYSEL olarak \u0130Y\u0130 olaca\u011f\u0131z, mutlu olaca\u011f\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Toplum i\u00e7inde sayg\u0131l\u0131 ve tutarl\u0131 davranaca\u011f\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ezici davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan pe\u015finden savrulmayaca\u011f\u0131z, SEVG\u0130 ve SAYGIile yol alaca\u011f\u0131z.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Di\u011ferine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00f6nyarg\u0131y\u0131, birey aileden \u00f6\u011frenir. Do\u011fru ebeveyn tutumlar\u0131na sahip olmal\u0131y\u0131z ki yeti\u015ftirdi\u011fimiz \u00e7ocuk da toplumda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 psikolojiye sahip olsun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda teknolojinin geli\u015fmesiyle beraber, medya ve ara\u00e7lar\u0131 \u00fczerinden de \u00f6tekile\u015ftirme ya\u015fatmak \u00e7ok yayg\u0131nd\u0131r. \u00dcstelik insanlar y\u00fcz y\u00fcze bir ileti\u015fim olmamas\u0131 sebebiyle,  sahip olduklar\u0131 ideoloji \u00fczerinden aral\u0131ks\u0131z, daha incitici, yarg\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131 iletiler g\u00f6nderebilmektedirler. Bu bir t\u00fcr medya zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmakta ve insani y\u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze zarar vermektedir. Kendimize ait olan ki\u015fisel medya arac\u0131m\u0131zda, payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, zihinsel olmakla beraber duygusal s\u00fczge\u00e7lerden de ge\u00e7irmemiz gerekmektedir. Sa\u011fduyu ve empati ile yakla\u015fmak do\u011fru tutum olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7ok k\u00fclt\u00fcrl\u00fc ve farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131n fazla oldu\u011fu toplumlarda bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirece\u011fiz; k\u00fclt\u00fcrel zenginliklere odaklanaca\u011f\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00fcven vermeyi ve g\u00fcven duymay\u0131 tekrar \u00f6\u011frenece\u011fiz. Bu ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z toplumu daha huzurlu k\u0131lacak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sonu\u00e7 olarak \u00f6tekile\u015ftirmeden, hem kendi ideolojine ve hem de  kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stererek ya\u015famak i\u00e7in insan olmak gerekir. \u201c\u0130NSAN OLMAK\u201d ise g\u00fcven ister, al\u00e7ak g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcl\u00fck ister, sevgi bekler, sayg\u0131 g\u00f6rmek ister\u2026 Bunlar\u0131 vicdanla yapman\u0131 bekler, samimiyet g\u00f6rmek ister\u2026 D\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck \u015fartt\u0131r, do\u011fruluk esast\u0131r \u2018 insan olmak \u2018 i\u00e7in\u2026 K\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcyorsunuzdur, S\u0130Z \u0130Y\u0130L\u0130\u011e\u0130 TERC\u0130H EDEN VE BA\u015eLATANLARDAN OLUNUZ. Belki d\u00fcnya sizin kanatlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n alt\u0131nda g\u00fczelle\u015fmeye ba\u015flayacakt\u0131r\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Sevgilerimle\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6ZLEM TUNA<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sosyolog \/ \u00f6\u011fretmen \/ yazar \/ NLP uzman\u0131 \/ konu\u015fmac\u0131<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Hepimiz d\u00fcnyaya baz\u0131 farkl\u0131l\u0131klar ile geliriz. Genetik olarak farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131za, toplumsal ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrel farklar da eklenir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z hayatta, bireysel ve kolektif kimliklerimiz olu\u015fur. Tam da burada \u201c\u00f6teki\u201d tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131, \u201cben veya bizi olu\u015fturan t\u00fcm kavramlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olan, kar\u015f\u0131 olan, farkl\u0131 olan\u2019\u2019 olarak a\u00e7\u0131klayabiliriz. \u00d6teki demek kula\u011fa k\u00f6t\u00fc gelmekle beraber, asl\u0131nda bu kavram i\u00e7in \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc, olumsuz, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":2415,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[68],"tags":[75,78,77,79],"translation":{"provider":"WPGlobus","version":"3.0.0","language":"tr","enabled_languages":["en","tr"],"languages":{"en":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false},"tr":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2414"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2414"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2414\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2419,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2414\/revisions\/2419"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2415"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2414"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2414"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2414"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}