{"id":1611,"date":"2023-02-28T21:45:11","date_gmt":"2023-02-28T18:45:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/?p=1611"},"modified":"2023-02-28T22:07:32","modified_gmt":"2023-02-28T19:07:32","slug":"people-of-another-world-ii","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/1611\/people-of-another-world-ii\/","title":{"rendered":"Ba\u015fka D\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0130nsanlar\u0131 II"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright size-full is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Screenshot-2023-02-28-213653.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1612\" width=\"193\" height=\"201\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">MELDA SHERMAN<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>New York\u2019ta bir g\u00fczellik uzman\u0131na ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z varsa mutlaka G\u00fcl Topalo\u011flu ile tan\u0131\u015fmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Profesyonelli\u011fi, nezaketi ve ho\u015fsohbeti ile vaktin nas\u0131l ge\u00e7ti\u011fini anlamazs\u0131n\u0131z. G\u00fczellik merkezinden ayr\u0131l\u0131r, NY\u2019un \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131n trafi\u011fine kar\u0131\u015f\u0131rken bile sohbet bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme olarak \u00fczerinize siner.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ben Melda Sherman, Boston\u2019dan yaz\u0131yorum. Daha \u00f6nceki yaz\u0131lar\u0131mda bahsetmi\u015ftim size, G\u00f6\u00e7men Ku\u015flar kitab\u0131ndan\u2026 4,5 y\u0131lda yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131m kitab\u0131m i\u00e7in \u00e7ok ara\u015ft\u0131rma yapt\u0131m. \u00c7ok seyahat ettim. New York- Boston aras\u0131 \u00e7ok yolculuk yapt\u0131m. O s\u0131rada tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131m sevgili G\u00fcl Topalo\u011flu ile\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>ARTTMODERNMIAMI GAZETE \u2019de \u201cBa\u015fka D\u00fcnyan\u0131n \u0130nsanlar\u0131\u201d r\u00f6portaj serisine ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 duyunca \u00e7ok mutlu oldu. G\u00fcl Topalo\u011flu ile r\u00f6portaj yapmak istedim, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc zorlu bir hikayesi oldu\u011funu biliyorum. Kendisi de beni k\u0131rmad\u0131. Ben sordum, o cevaplad\u0131. Buyurun kendisinden dinleyelim hikayesini:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014ARTTMODERNMIAMI GAZETE\/Melda SHERMAN: G\u00fcl han\u0131m merhaba, bize k\u0131saca kendinizden bahseder misiniz?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Ben G\u00fcl Topalo\u011flu 45 y\u0131ld\u0131r g\u00fczellik sekt\u00f6r\u00fcnde g\u00fczellik uzman\u0131 olarak \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktay\u0131m.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Amerika\u2019ya ni\u00e7in geldiniz?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Amerika&#8217;ya 2000 y\u0131l\u0131nda \u0130stanbul\u2019dan geldim. Asl\u0131nda ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f diyelim. Haritada bir yer belirlememi\u015ftim. Ankara\u2019da olabilirdi, Fransa\u2019da; \u0130stanbul\u2019dan gitmeliyim, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesindeydim. Hayat\u0131m\u0131n ilk radikal karar\u0131n\u0131 vermi\u015ftim. Asl\u0131nda ben stabil bir insand\u0131m. Al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131ma \u00e7ok ba\u011fl\u0131y\u0131m ve kolay kolay da de\u011fi\u015ftirmem. O s\u0131ralarda \u00e7ok ani ve kesin bir karar verdim. O havay\u0131 teneff\u00fcs etmek istemedim. Kendimden ka\u00e7makt\u0131 bu.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye sizi iten etken neydi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Hayatimi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye karar vermemi iten sebep, duygusall\u0131kt\u0131. Her \u015fey \u00e7ok normal giderken, sohbet ediyorken annem fenala\u015ft\u0131 ve \u00f6ld\u00fc. \u015eaka yap\u0131yor sand\u0131m, elimde \u00e7ay barda\u011f\u0131 ile kala kald\u0131m \u00e7ok ani ve k\u0131sa bir vedayd\u0131, annem ellerimden kay\u0131p gitmi\u015fti. Ben bu travmay\u0131 atlatamad\u0131m, s\u0131rt\u0131m\u0131 dayad\u0131\u011f\u0131m duvar y\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Ayakta duram\u0131yordum, en ac\u0131s\u0131 da babam\u0131n vefas\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 idi. Annemin kayb\u0131ndan 2 ay sonra evlenmi\u015fti bu benim k\u0131r\u0131lma noktamd\u0131.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: \u00c7ok \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc! Peki, d\u00fcrt\u00fc nas\u0131l eyleme d\u00f6nd\u00fc?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: \u00c7ok yaln\u0131z hissettim. Tek ba\u015f\u0131ma kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Herkes evine d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. O d\u00f6nemde yan\u0131nday\u0131m diyenlerin hi\u00e7birinin yan\u0131mda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. \u201cYa \u015fimdi ya da hi\u00e7bir zaman\u201d diyerek karar\u0131m\u0131 verdim. Her sene, Amerika\u2019dan tatile gelen bir arkada\u015f\u0131m vard\u0131. Bana her zaman \u201cHadi gel bak ben orday\u0131m, \u00f6lmeden \u00f6nce g\u00f6r\u00fclmesi gereken yer New York, mutlaka g\u00f6rmelisin\u201d diyordu. Arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131 arad\u0131m. Ziyaretine gitmek istedi\u011fimi s\u00f6yledim. 2 haftal\u0131\u011f\u0131na New York&#8217;a geldim. Bana \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fcleyici geldi. Sabahlar\u0131 ke\u015fif i\u00e7in sokaklarda y\u00fcr\u00fcyordum. G\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm herkes \u201cG\u00fcnayd\u0131n, nas\u0131ls\u0131n, iyi g\u00fcnler\u201d gibi g\u00fczel ve insani duygularla selamla\u015f\u0131yorlard\u0131. \u201cTamam\u201d dedim ben burada ya\u015far\u0131m. O\u011flumun e\u011fitim hayat\u0131 burda \u00e7ok daha farkl\u0131 olabilir, diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm. Bu duygularla iki hafta sonra, \u0130stanbul\u2019a geri d\u00f6nd\u00fcm. Bir y\u0131l sonras\u0131na plan yapt\u0131m. Evimi, i\u015f yerimi tasfiye ettim geldim (30\/09\/2000). Tatile gelmekle burada ya\u015faman\u0131n \u00e7ok ama \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 o zaman anlayamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Nas\u0131l adapte oldunuz?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Geldikten alt\u0131 ay sonra adapte olamayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 anlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m:( S\u0131f\u0131r ingilizce ile insanlarla ileti\u015fim kurmakta \u00e7ok zorland\u0131m. \u00c7ok sosyal olan, herkesle \u00e7ok \u00e7abuk ileti\u015fime giren ben, kendi i\u00e7ime kapand\u0131m. \u0130lk 6 y\u0131l\u0131mda tek kelime ingilizce \u00f6\u011frenmedim. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc her uyand\u0131\u011f\u0131m yeni g\u00fcne d\u00f6nece\u011fimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek uyand\u0131m. Ama d\u00f6nemedim. \u0130ngilizce \u00f6\u011frenirsem, bir daha d\u00f6nemeyecekmi\u015fim, buraya al\u0131\u015facakm\u0131\u015f\u0131m hissine kap\u0131ld\u0131m. (Hala al\u0131\u015famad\u0131m.)<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Hep New York\u2019ta m\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131n\u0131z?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Evet geldi\u011fim g\u00fcnden bug\u00fcne kadar NY\u2019ta ya\u015fad\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/Screenshot-2023-02-28-215324-1.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1623\" width=\"682\" height=\"529\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n d\u00f6n\u00fcm noktas\u0131 nedir veya nelerdir?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Amerika\u2019ya geldi\u011fim g\u00fcnden bug\u00fcne kadar Brooklyn\u2019de de\u011fi\u015fik salonlarda \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. \u0130lk i\u015fimde, bir g\u00fcn \u00e7ok rahats\u0131zland\u0131m (di\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131) \u00f6yle ki ac\u0131dan a\u011fl\u0131yordum. O g\u00fcn doktora gitmeden \u00f6nce, o di\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011fu g\u00fcn mobinge u\u011frad\u0131m. \u0130\u015fte k\u0131r\u0131lma noktam o oldu. Bir adam beni tehdit ediyor, g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc bende deniyor, beni sindirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yordu. \u0130nan\u0131n! Hi\u00e7 korkmad\u0131m. O an, geri d\u00f6n\u00fclmez bir karar ald\u0131m. Art\u0131k hayat\u0131ma sahip \u00e7\u0131kacakt\u0131m ve ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m kararlar\u0131n arkas\u0131nda duracakt\u0131m. O m\u00fcsibet olay, benim kendi g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fcn fark\u0131na varmama sebep oldu.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Off! \u00c7ok travmatik olmu\u015f! Peki, size bir sorum daha olacak: Hayat\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmek isteyen ve ba\u015fka bir \u00fclkeye yerle\u015fmek isteyen \u00e7ok insan var? Onlara ne tavsiye edersiniz?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Hayata yeniden ba\u015flamak \u00e7ok zor! E\u011fer ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131z 35 veya \u00fcst\u00fc ise b\u00fct\u00fcn ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 iki valize koyup geliyorsunuz. Kazanacaklar\u0131m ve kaybedeceklerim diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek laz\u0131m! Kazanacaklar\u0131n\u0131z, kaybettiklerinizden daha m\u0131 de\u011ferli? Kendi ad\u0131ma, ilk geldi\u011fim g\u00fcnler b\u00fcy\u00fck hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131m. NY\u2019da evler \u00e7ok k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck. \u0130stanbul\u2019daki evime benzer evlerin, kiralar\u0131 5-6 bin $, oysaki kazanc\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n toplam\u0131 5-6 bin de\u011fildi. B\u00fct\u00e7emize g\u00f6re bir oda bir salon evler 1500$d\u0131. Evlerin i\u00e7inde \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r makinesi, bula\u015f\u0131k makinesi yok! \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc l\u00fckse giriyor. Beni \u00e7ok \u015fa\u015f\u0131rtm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Burada gezmeye, arkada\u015flarla keyif yapmaya vakit de yok! S\u00fcrekli \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor<br>olacaks\u0131n\u0131z. Amerika seyretti\u011fimiz filmlerdeki gibi de\u011fil! \u0130lk yan\u0131lg\u0131m\u0131z burada ba\u015fl\u0131yor. T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z aileniz, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z, sevdiklerinize \u00f6zlem duyars\u0131n\u0131z. Burada rak\u0131, kahve bulursunuz ama T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de i\u00e7ti\u011finiz tad\u0131, zevki vermez. Farkl\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcrlerden arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z olur. Koreli, \u0130spanyol, Rus bir\u00e7ok T\u00fcrk arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdan daha<br>samimi i\u00e7ten ve do\u011fal olurlar. T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de aileniz ve sevdiklerinizi b\u0131rak\u0131p geldikten 6 ay sonra \u00f6zlem ba\u015flayacakt\u0131r. E\u011fer, 20\u2019li ya\u015flarda ingilizce bilerek geldiyseniz ve yasal, yani green kartl\u0131 olarak geldiyseniz \u00e7ok avantajl\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z demektir. O zaman Amerika ya\u015fan\u0131l\u0131r, g\u00fczel, \u00f6zg\u00fcr, bir hayat demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Ya\u015fam yolunuzda neler \u00f6\u011frendiniz? 5 madde yapabilir misiniz?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU:<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1- Merhamet ve vicdan. Hayat \u00e7ok k\u0131sa! \u00d6m\u00fcr \u00e7ok \u00e7abuk ge\u00e7iyor. \u00d6ncelikle, ilk de\u011ferimizin bu olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fine inan\u0131yorum.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2- Hedef belirlemek, ama\u00e7 edinmek. Bakmak ve g\u00f6rmek, dinlemek ve anlamak aras\u0131ndaki \u00e7izgiyi bilmelisin! Hi\u00e7bir \u015fey d\u0131\u015fardan g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc gibi de\u011fildir.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3- Sab\u0131r! En \u00f6nemlisi beklemek! \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc vaktinden \u00f6nce hi\u00e7bir \u015fey olmuyor. G\u00fcne\u015fin do\u011fu\u015fu ve bat\u0131\u015f\u0131 gibi sab\u0131rla beklemek.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>4- Payla\u015fmay\u0131 bilenlerden olmak! Yedi\u011fimiz yeme\u011fi de sevgiyi de derdi de s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131y\u0131 da payla\u015fmak! Ve bunu beklentisiz yapmak.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>5- Affetmek! Hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde bizi \u00fczen, k\u0131ran, hatta i\u00e7imizi \u00e7ok ac\u0131tanlar olur. Maalesef bu ki\u015filer hep yak\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r. Ailemiz, akrabalar\u0131m\u0131z bazen de arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r. G\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda affet gitsin! \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc; \u00f6fke, kin, e\u011fer bunu i\u00e7imizde tutarsak, bu duygu bizi y\u00fcr\u00fcyece\u011fimiz yolda geriletir. Oysa o duyguyu, kav\u015fakta b\u0131rak\u0131p yola devam etmek gerekir.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Son olarak gelecek plan\u0131n\u0131z nedir?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Gelecek planlar\u0131m aras\u0131nda \u0130zmir-Urla ya da Bal\u0131kesir\u2019in bir kasabas\u0131na yerle\u015fip bir k\u0131r kahvesi a\u00e7mak var. Umar\u0131m ger\u00e7ekle\u015fir\u2026<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014MELDA SHERMAN: Bu g\u00fczel r\u00f6portaj i\u00e7in te\u015fekk\u00fcr ederim sevgili G\u00fcl Topalo\u011flu, umar\u0131m hayalleriniz ger\u00e7ek olur. Ve bir g\u00fcn o, hayalinizdeki kitab\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karman\u0131z\u0131 da diliyorum.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014\u2014G\u00dcL TOPALO\u011eLU: Ben te\u015fekk\u00fcr ediyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tutkular\u0131m\u0131z ger\u00e7ek anka ku\u015flar\u0131d\u0131r. Eskisinin k\u00fcllerinden bir yenisi do\u011far.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Johann Wolfgang von Goethe -G\u00f6\u00e7men Ku\u015flar<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Melda Sherman<br>Yazar<br>http:\/\/www.meldasherman.com<br>Instagram: messherman<br>Facebook: Melda Sherman<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>New York\u2019ta bir g\u00fczellik uzman\u0131na ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z varsa mutlaka G\u00fcl Topalo\u011flu ile tan\u0131\u015fmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Profesyonelli\u011fi, nezaketi ve ho\u015fsohbeti ile vaktin nas\u0131l ge\u00e7ti\u011fini anlamazs\u0131n\u0131z. G\u00fczellik merkezinden ayr\u0131l\u0131r, NY\u2019un \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131n trafi\u011fine kar\u0131\u015f\u0131rken bile sohbet bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme olarak \u00fczerinize siner. Ben Melda Sherman, Boston\u2019dan yaz\u0131yorum. Daha \u00f6nceki yaz\u0131lar\u0131mda bahsetmi\u015ftim size, G\u00f6\u00e7men Ku\u015flar kitab\u0131ndan\u2026 4,5 y\u0131lda yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131m kitab\u0131m i\u00e7in \u00e7ok ara\u015ft\u0131rma [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":1624,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[67],"tags":[75,88,87],"translation":{"provider":"WPGlobus","version":"3.0.0","language":"tr","enabled_languages":["en","tr"],"languages":{"en":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false},"tr":{"title":true,"content":true,"excerpt":false}}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1611"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1611"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1611\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1627,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1611\/revisions\/1627"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1624"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1611"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1611"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arttmodernmiami.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1611"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}